How To Lose Weight Easily

Life changing tips from a skinny girl on how to lose weight without dieting and keep it off for good.

A lot of ‘how to lose weight’ articles are usually written by people who want to lose weight. People who understand the struggle and worked hard to successfully become a skinnier and healthier version of themselves, which makes complete sense of course.

I’m not that person.

I’ve been skinny my whole life, in the realm of supermodel measurements and never needed to suffer through a day of dieting. If anything, I’ve wanted to gain weight to become a little curvier and feel sexier.

So you’re probably wondering, “How the hell are you going to help me lose weight if you’ve never done it?”

I believe I have a lot of insight to offer by delving into why I’m skinny in the first place, and how it’s easy for me to maintain my weight. Spoiler alert, it isn’t genetics!

Hara hachi.

When I was around twelve years old, I was obsessed with Japan and spent hours studying their culture and language. One day I came across the term Hara Hachi, which is a way of living (or should I say eating) the Japanese live by.

It essential means: eat until you’re 80% full.

You eat until you’re comfortably full, instead of overeating into a food coma that makes you feel physically ill.

This was very interesting because if you grew up in a western culture like me, we are taught the complete opposite.

Eat everything on your plate. It’s rude not to finish. Children in Africa are starving so how can you leave that?

How many of you have heard these statements? Have been guilted into overeating when you’re already full? In my household, my parents would get angry if you left anything on your plate. I realized this was unhealthy and cultivates extremely bad eating habits that can be difficult to shake off when you’re an adult.

Somewhere deep inside, I had already been practising Hara hachi for a long time and just didn’t know it. I always ate until I was comfortably full, and if that left a couple of extra meatballs on my plate — so be it, it wasn’t the end of the world for me like it was for my parents.

Put the damn meatballs in tupperware and I’ll eat them later!

Hara hachi encouraged my way of eating and showed what a healthy relationship with food looked like. It made me understand that eating everything on your plate wasn’t a sign of politeness nor would it do anything to help starving children in Africa.

That toxic mindset needs to stop, and its time to adopt a new one.

Here’s how to start Hara Hachi:

  1. Try to aim for that 80% when loading up your plate.
  2. Get smaller plates and cups. Food on a small plate looks like a lot more than it would on a bigger one (works the same with drinks), and visually tricks your mind into eating smaller amounts.
  3. Avoid multi-tasking and focus on just eating! This is how you miss the signals of fullness when your brain is preoccupied with other things.
  4. Drink a big glass of water before and after each meal to avoid overeating.

Size matters.

You ever ask a skinny girl how she stays thin and her reply is:

“I don’t have to do anything, I can eat whatever I want!”

I know… it’s annoying.

It annoys me too because skinny girls actually can’t eat whatever they want. If we were to eat two whole pizzas every day, we would gain weight — just like everyone else. What these girls aren’t mentioning, or perhaps realizing themselves, is the amount they are eating.

A skinny girl can eat an entire pizza by herself and not gain weight, but only because she isn’t eating much of anything else for the rest of the day! And not because she’s starving, but because as skinny girls we have small stomachs. It’s easy to eat whatever you want when you can’t consume a whole lot to begin with. Some girls just don’t realize this because they feel super full and eat consistently like everyone else.

I used to tell people I can eat whatever until I realized actually, no — I’m eating a small amount of everything I want which doesn’t result in weight gain.

My point is this: stomach size plays a massive role in how difficult or easy it is for you to lose weight. If you have been overeating for a long time, you have most likely increased the size of your stomach.

This is also where Hara hachi comes in. So many people go straight into starvation mode to try and lose weight, but what if you just continued eating everything you love — but stopped when you were 80% full? Do you know what happens then? Your stomach size will start to naturally shrink, and after a few months, you won’t even be able to eat that whole pizza anymore! This is a really great and natural progression into losing weight.

All or nothing.

When people approach weight loss, why do they always have to approach it with such an extreme all or nothing mentality?

If you do this, you will fail.

When you drastically alter your life in such a way that you remove everything you enjoy, you become miserable. And when you’re miserable you become unmotivated, and when you’re unmotivated you give up on whatever you were trying to accomplish in the first place.

A struggle that never ends.

Motivation is the single most important driving force to succeed in weight loss. What keeps our motivation high? By continuously and succesfully accomplishing smaller goals as we work toward a bigger goal.

You have to start small, and here is how:

  • Hara Hachi.
  • Make a list of everything you eat during a week and instead of eliminating, look at how you can replace the ingredients with healthier alternatives: Whole-wheat for whole-grain. High-calorie sodas for low. Nutella for a homemade cocoa spread? Get on Pinterest!
  • What is your downfall? Snacking? Too much alcohol? High-fat food? Too lazy to cook meals? Figure out what is hindering your weight loss journey the most, and tackle it until you have a solution. If you have several downfalls, address them one step at a time from most important to least.
  • Do not create a strict workout routine. Because guess what happens when you don’t stick to it? You fail, then become unmotivated and never workout again. Give yourself more flexibility like a gym session on a day you feel like it instead of Tuesday at 18:45 on the dot. If you need some kind of structure, then only pick one element to control. For example, you have to workout three times a week. That’s it.

Give it a try.

I like to think of these tips as an easy way to lose weight for people who have been consistently trying and failing. The approach is to not give up on the things you love while slowly paving the way for a healthier lifestyle. It’s the kind of method that everyone can try and not feel unhappy from restrictions that can feel impossible to follow.

Sometimes it’s the most simple and small of steps that give us the biggest leap.

And remember, weight isn’t everything nor does it define you as a person. But I understand it’s something we can feel insecure about or even completely defeated by at times. In my mission to gain weight I’ve felt hopeless more times than I can count, but I’m learning to let go of the idea that there is only one ideal body.

Embarking on a weight loss journey to change your lifestyle is a huge goal that takes time. Don’t get discouraged if you fall of the wagon a couple times or don’t see the results as quickly as you would have hoped.

It’s called a journey for a reason.

Eternal optimist and writer by profession. Navigating through life and all of its lessons while hopefully uplifting my readers along the way.

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